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Carrie Bradshaw, played by Sarah Jessica Parker, is famous for her role in the showSex and the City.The show revolves around the lives of four women in Manhattan tackling friendship, love life, and career. The show was ahead of its time and addressed several controversial issues that were not discussed in other shows.
Every protagonist has their share of flaws, and so does Carrie.Sarah Jessica Parkerhas said that she loves Carrie’s flaws, but sometimes Carrie has gone from being imperfect to downright insufferable. Here are ten times fans hated Carie Bradshaw:
1Finding Natasha
One of Carrie’s worst moments was when she decided to track down Natasha, the woman whose marriage she helped destroy, just to force an apology from her. If there’s one thing about Carrie, it’s that she always manages to make everything about herself—even when she’s in the wrong.
After having an affair with Big, who was married to Natasha at the time, Carrie is weighed down by guilt. Instead of simply moving on and learning from her mistakes, she convinced herself that apologizing would make things better. But here’s the catch—Natasha wanted nothing to do with her.
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Even after all her attempts to get away from her, Carrie went ahead and ambushed her on a lunch date. She just showed up uninvited and pushed Natasha into a conversation that she never asked for. This wasn’t really about making amends. If you think about it carefully, this was Carrie just trying to clear her own conscience at someone else’s expense. She did not consider how Natasha would feel seeing her. Natasha, though, wasn’t having it, indicating clearly that Carrie had already caused enough harm to her life. And really? She had a point.
2The way Carrie treated Aidan
Aidan Shaw was one of the kindest, most patient men Carrie had ever dated, and yet, she never truly appreciated him. While their relationship had plenty of adorable moments, it was also frustrating to watch Carrie take Aidan for granted time and time again.
Aidan was in it for good. He was supportive, loving, and willing to do whatever it took for Carrie. But Carrie? She always had one foot out the door. Even though Aidan was everything she said she wanted in a man, she couldn’t get over her residual feelings for Big. This meant that, regardless of how much Aidan loved her, he was always battling a losing cause.
From the beginning of their relationship,Carrie showed signs of reluctance, which should have been Aidan’s biggest warning sign. One of their earliest issues arose when Aidan expressed his dislike for smoking. Rather than seeing his concern as an act of care, Carrie treated it as an inconvenience. What a fool, right? And let’s not forget the biggest betrayal of all—her affair with Big while still dating Aidan. She knew how much it would hurt him, but she did it anyway. Then, to add more salt to the wound, she later manipulated him into taking her back, just to hurt him all over again. Aidan was better than that, and we all secretly knew it.
3Not valuing her friends
For someone who built her career writing about relationships, Carrie wasn’t always the best friend. She had an unfortunate habit of prioritizing her own problems over those of the people closest to her, often leaving them to fend for themselves.
Take Miranda, for example. In one of the most telling moments of Carrie’s selfishness, Miranda finds herself completely immobile after injuring her neck while getting out of the bath. In desperate need of help, she called Carrie, expecting her best friend to rush over. But instead of showing up herself, Carrie sent Aidan in her place. That’s right—she sent her boyfriend to help a naked and vulnerable Miranda instead of handling the situation herself.
While Aidan was kind enough to assist, Carrie should have handled this. Friends show up for each other, especially in times of distress. But Carrie? She had other things to do and simply passed the responsibility onto someone else. It was just another instance of her failing to prioritize the people who had always been there for her.
4Judging her friends
Carrie may have been close to her friends, but that didn’t stop her from being unnecessarily judgmental at times. While Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda always supported Carrie, she wasn’t always as kind in return.
One of the biggest examples of this is her treatment of Samantha. Samantha was confident, independent, and unapologetically herself—something that Carrie often seemed to find amusing, if not outright offensive. Whether it was sarcastic remarks about Samantha’s love life or disapproving glances when she talked about her escapades, Carrie was never shy about expressing her opinions.
The breaking point came whenCarrie walked in on Samantha being intimatewith a delivery guy. Rather than laughing it off or just excusing herself, Carrie comments snidely on how she would never do something like that. It was a mean thing to say to a friend, particularly given the big backup Samantha always gave Carrie on the choices she made, which, to be honest, were often quite dubious. For a person who demanded absolute loyalty, Carrie seemed to have a tendency to cast unwarranted judgment at her friends.
5Carrie freaks out after learning that her boyfriend is bisexual
WhileSex and the Citywas revolutionary in many ways, some aspects of the show haven’t aged well. One of the biggest missteps was its handling of LGBTQ+ topics, and Carrie was often at the center of it.
One of the most disappointing moments was when she dated a bisexual man. Instead of embracing the experience with an open mind, Carrie treated his sexuality like a joke. She made dismissive remarks about his identity, referring to it as a mere “phase.” To make things worse, none of her friends called her out on it.
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For a person who had written about relationships and contemporary dating, Carrie’s response was amazingly old-fashioned. Her unease with her boyfriend’s bisexuality came across as dismissive and far too condescending. This reinforced negative stereotypes instead of shattering them. Although the show was revolutionary in most aspects, this specific plotline felt glaringly disrespectful in our current day and age.
6Values her boyfriends more than her friends
Carrie adored her friends—Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha were her ride-or-die squad. But the moment a man entered the picture, they suddenly took a backseat. And no man overshadowed them more than Mr. Big.
Carrie and Big had an exhausting, on-again-off-again relationship that consumed her world. Every time they rekindled their romance, it was as if nothing else existed. She’d get so caught up in her whirlwind with Big that she became emotionally unavailable to her friends, even when they were dealing with serious issues.
One of the most glaring examples? In season 2’s episodeThe Man, The Myth, The Viagra, Miranda had an important moment to share, but Carrie ditched her in favor of a veal dinner with Big. And this wasn’t a one-time thing—she repeated this pattern throughout the entire series. Despite her selfish tendencies, her friends always stood by her, but the lack of reciprocity made it frustrating to watch.
7Carrie expects her friends to help her balance her finances
Let’s talk about something that has puzzled fans for years—how didCarrie afford a glamorous New York City lifestyleon a freelance writer’s salary? Designer shoes, a rent-controlled apartment, high-end fashion… it didn’t quite add up. And when financial trouble hit, instead of taking responsibility, she expected her friends to bail her out.
When she realized she needed $30,000 to avoid losing her apartment, she turned to her besties. While Miranda and Samantha offered to help, Charlotte hesitated—and that didn’t sit well with Carrie. Instead of understanding that no one owed her financial assistance, she lashed out at Charlotte, guilt-tripping her into offering an engagement ring to solve Carrie’s crisis. The entire ordeal made Carrie come off as entitled, expecting her friends to clean up her mess while refusing to acknowledge her own poor money management skills.
8Carrie Bradshaw is selfish
Carrie had an undeniable ability to make everything about herself. No matter what her friends were going through, somehow, the conversation always looped back to her and her latest crisis, no matter how big or small.
One of the most infuriating instances happened when Samantha was diagnosed with breast cancer. Samantha, who is known for her fierce independence, had to go through chemotherapy and hair loss with a brave face on.
But did Carrie step up as a good friend? Not really. She was too busy with her own love life, specifically with the Russian painter Aleksandr Petrovsky then (no surprise there). Yes, Carrie was conflicted by the news, but instead of being a good support system, she remained pretty distant. It was a rough period for Samantha, and Carrie could have been a good friend simply by showing up for her.
Again and again, Carrie showed that when the limelight did not shine directly on her, she lost interest very fast. Friendship is not a one-sided affair, my friend, and Carrie frequently could not keep up her side of the deal.
9When Carrie dares to accept Aidan’s marriage proposal
Aidan Shaw was arguably one of the best guys Carrie had ever dated—stable, loving, and ready for commitment. But Carrie? Not so much. After cheating on him with Big in season 3, she somehow managed to win Aidan back in season 4. Despite her past mistakes, Aidan still loved her enough to propose. And Carrie, despite knowing she wasn’t ready for marriage, said yes.
Fans could see it coming from a mile away—Carrie wasn’t as invested in the relationship as Aidan was. She half-heartedly accepted his proposal, never showing the same level of excitement or commitment. Deep down, she still had unresolved feelings for Big, and Aidan (bless his heart) was just setting himself up for another heartbreak.
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Eventually, Carrie admitted she wasn’t ready to marry him, and they broke up for good this time. And, the cherry on top? She later ended up with Big anyway, making her entire relationship with Aidan feel like a waste of time and a huge emotional rollercoaster for the fans.
10The big affair
If there’s one storyline that solidified Carrie’s most questionable decisions, it was her affair with Big while he was married to Natasha. It was messy, selfish, and heartbreaking—not just for Natasha but also for Aidan, who had no idea what was going on behind his back.
Despite knowing Big is married, Carrie still pursues him. When she and Big start sneaking around, she justifies her actions to herself and even involves her friends in keeping the secret. But karma came knocking when Natasha found out and confronted Carrie in one of the most painful scenes of the series. If that wasn’t bad enough, poor Aidan later walked in on Carrie cleaning up after sleeping with Big. Talk about brutal. Carrie’s affair wasn’t just a mistake; it was a pattern of destructive behavior that hurt everyone involved. And yet, she barely faced any real consequences.
Sohini Mukherjee
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Sohini Mukherjee is an Evergreen writer at FandomWire, specializing in pop culture, all things sitcoms, and, of course, Harry Potter. She has a soft spot for shows like Modern Family and pretty much any movie that knows how to tell a good story. You’ll find her name on listicles and long form articles that feel more like fun conversations than stiff articles. Having published over 300 articles, Sohini always brings a unique perspective and a deep understanding of the stories she covers.
